5 Ways to Show Self Confidence

5 Ways To Show Self Confidence

A lack of self confidence is one thing that stops us from reaching our dreams, enjoying life, trying new things and causing the change we so desire to see in our lives. 

Confident people can achieve anything because they aren’t afraid to try new things. They don’t worry about what others will think, they don’t seek out approval from people, and they always go after what they want without being apologetic.

To some people, the self confident person may look a bit selfish or ruthless. But that is a big misread on the self confident individual. For one thing, I’ve never met a go-getter who was not strongly interested in helping a lot of people. 


Female boss chairing a business meeting in a boardroom

The perception of rudeness is actually just an intolerance of others who get in their way. Think of there being a fire starting in a wastebasket. Some might ask, “Who lit the fire?”, while the  self confident person may quickly move the ponderers out of the way and put the growing fire out. 

If saving lives seems rude to some people, then so be it. What’s important is the important things are getting done. Wouldn’t you agree?

The amount of effort and willpower it takes to get anything constructive done is underestimated by most people. And there is not enough time on a day to tip toe around the dreamers and critics, explaining their every move to them in how there actions are not “politically incorrect”.

One thing that’s preventing most people from attaining their goals, executing their ideas, getting that promotion at work, growing their businesses, or attracting clients is a lack of confidence  or fear of others. 

Understand that people want to work with individuals who are not just good at what they do, but also display confidence and that they are not holding back with what they are doing. To hold back is to weaken yourself and sabotage your goals.

Self confident woman working

Showing confidence is a great way of attracting the right people, having more clients, forming valuable relationships, as well as setting yourself up for the kind of life you want and deserve. 

No one is going to give it to you. Being Mexican, maybe an appropriate analogy would be to “You have to grab the bull by the horns.” In other words, do not hold yourself back because of worrying about this or that. 

As long as you are ethical and decent to others, don’t get caught up in any other “tricks” of the critic by worrying that someone might say something unsavory about you. That kind of person will, no matter what you do or don’t do, so just get on with your goals in life and disregard what might be said or thought about you. Truly, if you are helping people, you are going to have the majority cheering you on and defending you.  

So, how do you show confidence when interacting with other people, negotiating deals, working, and in every area of your life? 

  1. Maintain a good posture.

People are naturally attracted to individuals who maintain a good posture, stand tall, and maintain eye contact when talking. It is a sign of confidence and communicates that you are sure of yourself. So, avoid slouching, fidgeting, and breaking eye contact when interacting with other people. Keep a good posture and always appear confident even if you don’t feel confident on the inside. It will go a long way.

  1. Practice good grooming. 

Your outward appearance determines how you feel about yourself. It can either improve your self-assurance or harm it. This is why confident people practice and prioritize taking care of themselves, looking clean, and dressing properly. A clean appearance makes you feel good on the inside, enhances self-confidence, and shows that you are sure of yourself. Therefore, practice good grooming, and always dress the part when meeting up with clients, going to work, or during social gatherings.

  1. Believe in yourself. 

There is nothing that screams “incompetent” than someone hesitant and unsure of what she’s doing or saying. Attracting the right people, forming worthwhile relationships, getting investors interested in you, and attaining your aims starts with believing in yourself.

Believing in yourself and having faith in what you are doing enhances your self-confidence and helps you demonstrate confidence when communicating with others. So, have faith in yourself, your work, and reflect on all the great things you have accomplished whenever you feel your confidence crushing. 

  1. Be a good conversationalist. 

Your ability to start or hold conversations shows how confident you are. Are you good at starting conversations? Are you a good listener? If you answered NO to either of these questions know that you need to make some changes. Being a good conversationalist or being able to approach people is an excellent way of showing confidence. It communicates that you are interested in other people and are sure of yourself. 

People are attentive to those who start conversations, engage in worthwhile conversations, pay attention when others are talking, and ask questions where relevant. So, demonstrate self-confidence by beginning chats and being a great conversationalist. 

  1. Smile.

Smiling is another way of displaying confidence. Smiles are contagious and people are naturally drawn to someone who smiles because cheerful individuals often appear relaxed, happy, and comfortable in their own skin. 

They have an “I have it all figured out” appearance and are approachable. Smiling keeps people thinking that you are sure of yourself, comfortable in your situation, happy with your life, and confident about your abilities. 

Female boss leading the business meeting


Building and showing confidence can be difficult, but with practice, it is doable. Practice continuously and use affirmations to accelerate the process.

“I believe in this” … “I can” … “I have what it takes” and “I will get this done” are examples of positive affirmations you can say out loud daily to improve your self-confidence and in turn, display it when communicating or working with other people.

Recognize that individuals who appear naturally confident weren’t necessarily born that way. They worked on their confidence and practiced over and over until it came naturally to them. You can also achieve that. 

Maintaining your confidence may not be easy because of all the uncertainties and unfavorable situations you encounter in life. Nonetheless, understand that you can preserve your self-assurance amid the misfortunes, challenges, failures, and other bad occurrences in life. 

You achieve this by believing in yourself, realizing that you can still reach your goal, dwelling on positive thoughts, and having faith in what you are doing despite a series of setbacks. 

Being sure of yourself — having self confidence — and displaying confidence when interacting with other people, is the key to succeeding in any area of your life, forming lasting relationships, attracting the right people, preserving good relationships, and reaching for your dreams. 

Make sure you display confidence at all times.


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